The older I get

The less I care about things that don't matter.

Lately I have been setting goals and reaccessing my life and I have found that their is alot of unnecessary bullshit ( for lack of a better word) that needs to be weeded out.

Maybe it is that time in my life where i really find out who I am and what I am about.

I have found the following to be true:

1. Relationships- I have found that more than anything how you treat others and your relationship with others is what can hurt and help you become the person you are going to be. I have had relationships mess with my head, but I have also learned most of life's lessons from them.

I think the issue here is when we think of relationships we immediately think of that special someone.... This is not what I am talking about. I am talking about a relationship with the following.

Sub Categories:

1. God (or your higher being)- I for one think this is the most important relationship that sometimes doesn't get as much attention as the other ones. This is the relationship that helps us deal with every aspect of our life and if we are unable to perfect this relationship we are wasting our time in other avenues of our life.

2. Family- This is another relationship in life that we do not choose. ( CLEARLY HAHA) The fact of the matter is after everything is said and done our family will always be our family. The older I get the more I now know how much this matters. How important it is to develop a relationship with these people. You can learn so much through these members.

3. Career- Yes believe it or not we have many relationships in our careers. One might even go as far as to say you spend more time with people you work with than any other person in your life. Many people are with these people for 40 plus hours every week. Learn from these people, be friend these people......

4. Friendships- Regarding my first statement on weeding the B.S. out of your life this is what I was referring to. This is the only avenue of life that YOU get to choose. I think we are so used to having other areas of our life controlled that we do not control the people we let in and out our lives, we befriend whoever is convenient. This is such an important part of relationships because all of our other relationships have led us to choose these people. Our other relationships are also effected by the people we choose to put into this category.

And in my opinion our friendships are a direct representation of the person we are. Do you want to be like your friends? If not choose more wisely!

5.Yourself- Although I list this relationship as the least important if you do not have a solid relationship with yourself you will incapable of having any of the above relationships. It is only once you understand you that you are able to learn and experience true relationships.

Alright I know my thoughts can be all over the place, but I treat this more like a journal than anything else. I have my relationships on the brain and I want to perfect all of them to be the woman I know I can be.